Friday, March 11, 2005

The Woman I admire (IWD)

Dear mouse,

International Women’s day last Tuesday at isang babae lang ang aking hinangaan. ME. Hindi po acronym, sa Tagalog po ay ako.

Aray, binatukan na naman ako.

Bago ninyo ako dusta-dustain na Presidente ako ng I love myself club, Pakinggan muna ninyo ako. Ang paborito ko pong kanta ay ang The Greatest Love of All.

Lalo po itong linyang ito... Give them a sense of pride to make it easier

Greatest Love of All

Whitney Houston

I believe the children are our are future

Teach them well and let them lead the way

Show them all the beauty they possess inside

Give them a sense of pride to make it easier

Let the children's laughter remind us how we used to be

Everybody searching for a hero

People need someone to look up to

I never found anyone who fulfilled my needs

A lonely place to be

So I learned to depend on me

I decided long ago, never to walk in anyone's shadows

If I fail, if I succeed

At least I'll live as I believe

No matter what they take from me

They can't take away my dignity

Because the greatest love of all

Is happening to me

I found the greatest love of all

Inside of me

The greatest love of all

Is easy to achieve

Learning to love yourself

It is the greatest love of all

And if by chance, that special place

That you've been dreaming of

Leads you to a lonely place

Find your strength in love

Isa ho sa naghubog sa akin upang mahalin ko ang sarili at magsumikap upang hindi sipasipain ay isang propesor (SLN). Unang araw ko po yong magturo sa isang universidad at ang aking kuwalipikasyon ay ang aking pagkapasa Sa SIPA (CPA) at tatlong taong pagtatrabaho sa industriya.

May meeting kaagad at siyempre balitaktakan ang mga senior faculty members. Tahimik lang ako. Nakikinig na kailangan daw ng mga bago na kumuha ng Teaching Methods para matuto kung paano magturo. Siniko ako ng isang lalaking propesor. Propesor ho talaga siya dahil katatapos lang niya ng kaniyang PhD sa USTe. Isa ko yan sa mga requirements para makuha ang titulong Full professor. (puno ho ang banga).

Sabi niya sa akin. Don’t be a nimcompoop. Say something. Sabi ko...SOMETHING. ( o di tumba siya).

Pagkatapos nang meeting ay inimbita niya akong maglunch. Bibigyan daw niya ako ng mga pointers.Uy magaling yon. Kasi ang pointer ko ay yong indoor antenna ng TV na hindi na namin ginagamit. Na-eextend siya.

Bait naman niya. Pero siya ang pinakamaraming kalaban sa college. Masyado kasing outspoken at rebelde.

Binulungan ako ng sekretarya sa opit. Sabi niya. Hoy, separado yan. Ang dinig ko operado. Sagot ko saan ?

Habang nginangata namin ang matigas na karneng baka sa canteen ay binibigyan niya ako ng mga dapat kung tandaan.

Isa dito ay ang aking pakikipaglaban para sa aking karapatan.Sabi niya, mag-aral ako ng masteral at pagnakatapos ako ay isampal sampal ko ang aking diploma sabay hingi ng promosyon. Hmmm. talagang matigas ang karne.

Kung hindi maghihintay pa ako ng promotion year na minsan ay ginagawa tuwing ikalawang taon. Hmmmm, sa susunod, isda ang aking oorderin.

Are you listening, tanong niya sa akin. Sabi ko oo, tito.

"Huwag mo akong tawaging tito. Sasampalin kita."

Ulkkk, marunong pala siyang tumawa.

Fast forward

Persistence makes exec achieve her life's to do list.

Ito po ang historya ng buhay ni Carolina Dominguez sa pakikipagsapalaran niya sa Amerika.

Dominguez says it was necessary to look the part as it was easy for minorities, particularly Asians like her, to be overlooked and passed over for promotions in a giant company like Citibank. "I had to learn how to fend for myself and to be aggressive. Over there, if you don't scream, you won't be heard. You have to demand a raise, demand a promotion. If you are going to be Asian and stayed in a corner, nothing will happen to you. I had to learn how to shout my achievements. It was tough," she says
.

Si Dominguez ay tapos ng kaniyang graduate studies sa 'Merika. Mayroon siyang panlaban, pero ani nga niya:

She sent applications to over 200 companies, got interviewed in 100, and got two to three job offers in Chicago, which she turned down.

Si Pusa ay gradweyt lang sa iskuwelahang munti sa Pinas. Pero sabi nga ni Dominguez, demand a raise, demand a promotion and that I did. One day pinuntahan ko yong Finance Director na puti at sabi ko, i am demanding a salary increase.

Tiningnan niya ako. Hindi ko makita sa mukha niya ang diploma niyang MBA sa UCLA.

Sabi niya, wala pa raw siyang basehan.Tokneneng.

Sabi ko di gumawa siya ng performance evaluation system at base doon, puwede nang madetermine kung magkano dapat ang mga pay increases sa merit system.

I can help.Yabang ko noh. Pero talaga namang kinukuha yan sa MBA. Bakit di niya lam.

After 3 months, natapos ang performance appraisal.

Lahat ng empleyado ay naincreasan ng suweldo. Maliit lang ang increase ko.Mababa ang ibinigay niya sa aking rating. Parang sinasabi niyang Asian ka lang, nagmamarunong ka.

Eh, no.

Mula noon, pinag-initan na niya ako.

Ano ang feeling ko.

Ibig sabihin noon, insecure lang siya. Beh.

Itutuloy

The Ca t

7 Comments:

At 9:41 PM, Blogger sachiko said...

It's IWD, not ICD?! Maybe there's some mistake?

ICD?? Guess what is ICD..pag nahulaan mo may premyo. :)

 
At 12:09 AM, Anonymous Anonymous said...

ICD...INTERNAL COMBUSTION DYNAMICS.
in tagalog...'pagmamahal sa sarili' so...i saw two things here..masyadon mong mahal si self. pagkatpos mong mahalin..you talk about other fepol. saan ba tayo papunta. magapply ka ng sa chicago at you can stay in our humble abode.hmmmmmmm!!!!p.s kung mahal mo ang yong sarili...pakita mo nga sa akin paano mo yakapin ang imong sarili!!!! hmmmmmm ulit.

 
At 1:54 AM, Blogger Unknown said...

hello Cathy. totoo yun, insecure lang sya. Paki beh, rin ako...

 
At 3:30 AM, Blogger sachiko said...

Oh,no! For me, ICD is International Cat's Day..

Sorry,cat..It was meant as a joke..never thought other people would put a different meaning in it..

hugs..

 
At 7:05 AM, Blogger cathy said...

no problem sachi,frat (the anonymous)is a very playful commenter.

frat,
pagbubuhat sa sariling bangko ang love sa sarili dito not to brag not toot your horn but make people know what you've done. In the Phils. we wait for others to complement us or recognize our accomplishment.when they do, tendency for us is to deny (labas ilong). Hindi naman (make twisting motion pa as in hiya ako.)

love one self does not necessarily mean you do not care for other people. you do but before you can help others, you must have financial and physical capabilities to do so.

luchie,
hindi lang sa Puti, kahit Pinoy malakas din ang insecurities na pag-iinitan ka. Magnet ako diyan siguro dahil I always stand for my right.

 
At 8:46 PM, Blogger cathy said...

ps.

ialways fight for my right. kasi lefty ako eh. nyahahaha

 
At 3:24 AM, Blogger infraternam meam said...

cath...ang hirap pumasok sa comment box mo. at least this time hindi ako anomaly. bakit ko ba nasabi ang buong pangalan ko sa imo..now you will always address me as carmelo....i will be hurt dahling!!! ibalik mo na lang sa dati..puwidi ba...hmmmmmm!!!!

 

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